I’m tired. That chronic, pervasive sort of tired that just saps everything I try to do.
It might be age-related insomnia, with night-time overactive bladder depriving me of sleep. It might be that summer heat just drags on and on and hardly any respite in sight.
But I have come to believe, since a verbal spar with a member of a well-known Catholic agency, yesterday, that I’m mostly just plain tired of control freaks.
I’d pointed out that an item said agency had published was rather florid for a news item, and that this was a distraction, and I got hammered. Actually, I was understating when I called it “florid.” It was a matter of purple prose, which ought never to be permitted in what is supposed to be journalism. And the team member — two team members, actually — criticized me for not recognizing that the piece was an “opinion” piece. Well, no, you have it posted as a World News Item; you are promoting it as news. . .
Then I saw another piece, a YouTube video in which another well-known Catholic celebrity was — boasting? — that Personality X had treated their invitation for a conversation with less than the respect and consideration Catholic Celebrity seemed to think is his due.
Add to that the heartbreaking release of news of a bishop embroiled in the midst of the sex abuse scandal ordering his seminarians not to associate with a group formed for the support of victims of that abuse — or, if they disobey, they will face absolute consequences.
I think the bishop is acting ill-advisedly. But the other two, who have no real authority, are just being petulant. Getting too big for their britches. The one hosting purple prose in the name of journalism boasts of being journalistic. I expect more authentic journalism in that setting. The other party is just another layman opining (however well or soundly) on matters of Church and Culture. Personality X owes him nothing.
I have felt for some time, since resigning from a couple of activities and organizations that I found were not living up to expectations, that I probably work better as a lone wolf. It’s hard. God knows, it’s lonely. But I don’t have the energy to deal with egos, incompetence, and nonsense any more. It’s just less stressful to go it alone.
That actually puts a lot more pressure on me to live up to the standards I expect of other people. I’m probably the world’s worst for making excuses for my own failings; that won’t fly in this arena. But I’m also not presenting myself as an authoritative voice in any subject, or as THE representative of faithful Catholicism. I’m just one woman struggling to make some sort of difference in the world — while fighting with myself about what I have to give and whether it even matters.